Do You Dare Date An Alpha Female?

8 Jul

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I have always been attractive to the silent and strong types.  While I am no slouch myself, I would not go as far as to claim that I’m an alpha female.  But in back when I was taking a few semesters at Rutgers, I had a friend who was.  Lily, funny name for an alpha female, intimidated most men.  A lot of those who gathered enough courage to try and ask her out failed her standards.  But she had a stable relationship with an equally impressive male by the name of John.  Last I heard they were married with two beautiful children.  Are you strong enough to date an alpha female?

Tough, feisty, never backs down on anybody, opinionated, confident, leader of the pack – these are just brief and concise definitions of what alpha females are. They can turn heads wherever they go, they can command anybody’s attention, and they can suck in all the space in a room.

And you’re going out on a date with her? – Consider it a blessing and a curse at the same time.

These alpha females are so strong and so sure of themselves that as a guy, it may be a hard fit to get in a relationship with her. She is so satisfied with herself that a relationship – the security and comforts of it – could as well be an option and not a necessity.

The thing is, alpha females are so attractive. But what makes them attractive is the exact same thing that makes them very elusive to the ordinary men out there. To date an alpha female, you must be an alpha male yourself!

Here are some tips on how to catch an alpha female’s interests on a date:

The first secret is to not be intimidated. Sure they’re smart, witty, outstanding, and irresistible, and they could easily transform the confident jock in you into a tongue-tied little dork. But hey, remember that you are an outstanding male too! Just to be sure, read this guide on how to ask a woman out.  You have your own set of achievements and characteristics that make you amazing, awesome, fun, and interesting and it would be cheating her and yourself if you don’t give her a chance to see it! If you show her that you’re scared and intimidated, and that she can twirl you around her fingers easily, then she’ll lose interest right at the first minute.

Look her in the eye. Show her that you are on matching levels. Show her that you are as strong and smart and awesome as she is. Show her what makes you interesting. Most, if not all alpha females, use conversations to gauge their dates. Be sensible and witty and insert a bit of humor now and then. Make sure you don’t make common men mistakes. Don’t let her drive the conversation – take the driver’s seat and don’t let her take control. That is not, however, being a selfish dictator; you got to let her speak too. You need to listen too, you know. Just as long as you don’t let her take the conversation where she wants it, you’re good to go.

Be a sensitive and genuinely nice guy. They’re only alpha females, not man haters. Treat these kinds of women as equals, acknowledge their skills and capabilities, but be sensitive to their female needs. Don’t forget Grandpa’s lessons on chivalry and being a classy gentleman. She’d like you for it. If you can make her feel like a woman, without making her feel inferior (like a lot of other men do) then you are one step closer towards winning her heart.

Don’t let the alpha female scare you. Remember, dating an alpha female should not make you less of a man. Use her strength of character, instead, to inspire you to become an even better man – a man worthy to take a place beside a strong, impressive, independent alpha female.

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