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Make Her See How Awesome You Are!

18 Nov

Greetings guys and thank you for visiting my site!

Whoever said that “first impressions last” knows what he or she is saying.  I mean I am like that; I find it hard to erase a first impression.  My current boyfriend had to overcome that – at first I thought he was a player and gave him a hard time.  Thankfully Dan was both patient and determined to win my heart.  It took a lot of effort before I would even give him the time of day but he persevered.  It’s been over a year now since we became an item and my only regret is having avoided him at first because of a mistaken impression.  That sort of inspired me to write this post to help men who need to repair the image they project onto the eyes of the lady of their dreams.

So there’s this girl you like,and you like her very, very much. Unfortunately, she thinks you’re an asshole. Or maybe she thinks you’re a nerd; someone who’s better off as a friend than a lover. Or maybe, just maybe, by a slight stroke of un-luck, she thinks you’re gay. Whatever her perception is of you, you know that it’s not helping you make your moves on her.

Just what do you do? How do you change the way a woman sees you? What do you do to make your lasting impression a better version of her first impression of you? Learn how to talk to girls now and rule your world! 🙂

Change How a Woman Sees You!

Fortunately, yes, you still can change the way she sees you. Here are some effective tips:

Change for the better. But of course you start this way! If she sees you as an annoying, self-important player – even without her having personal knowledge about your dating life, it may be because of the way you present yourself. Maybe you come off as very annoying because you talk too loudly, or talk too much about yourself. Maybe she has overheard about you talking with your buddies about your ex, or she’s seen the way you lustfully looked at her. If you want to change your impression of her, you had better change your ways.

Ask a good buddy to put in a good word for you. Ask a common friend of yours to put in a good word or two – randomly – about you; nothing too much, too sugarcoated, and too exaggerated, just something to spark up some curiosity and interest about you. Hearing something about you from someone else – the good stuff – will be more convincing as it’s from a supposedly disinterested party. PS: remember to make it as ‘random’ as possible!

Find a way to share a conversation with her. At this point, you have to make it a point that this is just a conversation, not a date, nor anything close to it. And make sure that she thinks exactly the same. The best way to pull this off is to talk to her while in a group – group date, lunch outs, anything that will allow you to speak up so she can listen, in a non-exclusive, non-intimate setup. Use this conversation as a chance to show her the side that she fails to see. Show her, through your stories, what you’re interested in, what ticks you off, and what makes you likable. But make sure to keep the subtlety in your stories, otherwise she’ll think you’re a self-absorbed jerk.

Invite her on a date. When she finally softens up to you, and she’s seemingly convinced that you may actually be a better person than she initially thought, then you can invite her on an actual date. Show her your Mr Suave side, the part of you that would make her want you. Make her forget about her initial judgment of you and wow her all night with your niceness, gentlemanliness, and your outstanding behavior – squeeze in a bit of humor  for good measure, that’s very important too!

Remember, it’s never too late to be really nice and likable!

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Find A Hobby To Impress Your Lady Love

11 Nov

Hello lovers.  I am glad you spared time to visit my site!  For this post I have chosen the subject of easy ways to impress women!

I was friends with Lola, the most coveted female in college at the time.  We often shared lots of stories about innovative ways that her many admirers tried to impress her.  There were times when these men succeeded, as in the case of one who won her heart, for a time at least, with his ability to cook.  There were lots more failures, some of which were such epic fails they were hilarious.  When we discussed the failures, we discovered that they were caused by men trying much too hard to impress.  Now that is funny since there are many simple ways to impress women, and some of them are as simple as a hobby you can take up.

Women are not as difficult or complicated as you think. Sure there are things that make pleasing women a bit of a challenge, but in general, women are very simple creatures. A lot of honesty, tons of loyalty, and an unquestionable level of connection are what women need most from potential current lovers. But wait, where to get dating advice (for men)? Read it now.

Perhaps the most challenging is when you don’t know each other that well, and when you are not an item – that time when you are just trying to impress an win her with whatever you have in your armory.

But you don’t really need incredible human strengths, skills, and qualifications to earn her appreciation. There are some very simple ways to impress her.

Hobbies to impress women

Don’t be a Type of Men That (Most) Women Hate. Here are some of the simplest hobbies that may actually impress women quite easily (PS: they are lasting too!).

Avid reading. What’s so difficult about spending endless hours being lost in the pages of a good book? Nothing! But it wins tons and tons of points with women. And why not? It means that you are the kind of man who invests in your mind, who is not only interested in making himself look good but also actually want to be a real man of substance.

Collecting. It doesn’t matter what you collect; collection is as simple as it is challenging, but altogether impressive. Collecting, especially the rarer stuff, requires a lot of patience and awful lot of safekeeping that spans many years. It says a lot about a man’s commitment, doesn’t it? Definitely a sure winner among women.

Fixing and handyman skills. Today’s woman, no matter how independent she has become, still has it in her DNA to look for support of a man both as a father figure and a lover. And what better way to be ‘supportive’ of a woman than to be someone who knows how to fix things when they break? Women expect men to be able to fix almost anything, just like their fathers did.  So handyman skills and an  inclination towards working with gears, crews, and toolboxes will always come out impressive.

Gardening. Think this is effeminate? Think again. Gardening sends out the message that a man is caring and nurturing – something that any woman from the caveman days to the modern human has always regarded as a plus. So use your green thumb, get your fingers in the dirt, and win her heart with your flowering blooms. Trust me, a bouquet of flowers that comes from your own garden is a much better, much sweeter gift than a store-bought one.

Cooking. Like gardening, cooking is a hobby that nourishes. I’m not talking about cooking in the professional sense. I am talking about cooking as a hobby, something that one does to entertain himself, his family and friends. Trust me, flip a pancake perfectly and you’ll have her gushing about you and your cooking all day. Remember: the way to anyone’s heart is still and perhaps will always be through the stomach.

Read more Skills That Impress Women from magforguys.com. Good luck!

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Apologies That Make Women Forgive (Almost) Instantly!

29 Oct

Greetings beautiful people!

One of the most painful aspects of dating involves any type of disagreement; the most painful, of course, being a breakup. But then experience also tells me that reconciliations after a disagreement are one of sweetest moments ever – if the parties handle it properly.  I can still vividly recall a big fight I had with my now ex Fred.   He had the temerity to react, rather positively I thought, to the advances of another female at a party we attended together; in my presence – he must be nuts!  When confronted about it he said that he was just being his friendly self and that I had nothing to worry about.  He waited till I had calmed down sufficiently and then walked up with a huge bouquet, a handmade apology card, and a big smile.  Who can resist that?

Women aren’t as complicated as you may think. You do something wrong, she gets upset, and then you apologize. That’s basically it.

I don’t see why men make a fuss over women making a fuss about what they did wrong. And when men do apologize, when it doesn’t work it’s because it is not convincing enough.

Don’t raise an eyebrow at me gents, all the ladies are nodding their heads on this one. Men think that simply blurting out ‘I’m sorry’ is apology enough. Well, trust me; that will only do if your offense was just bump her at the door on your way out or accidentally elbow her at the Starbucks line.

Apologies that work

Sweetheart, that is not enough. Let me teach you the right way to apologize to a woman:

Remember the three components essential to an apology: “I’m sorry”, “I won’t do it again”, and “What can I do to make up for it?” The first part says that you’re actually remorseful for what you’ve done, the second part is a promise that you are remorseful enough not to do it again, and the last one is to correct the damage or at least lessen it.

Put a little effort in it. Saying sorry is never enough. Be a little creative about it. Do something nice, fun, or romantic enough to equal, or better yet exceed, the gravity of the offense you’ve committed. Flowers are always welcome, a personalized dinner date, or a surprise whatever would also make the cut. I’ve said this again and again and I won’t stop saying it: gentlemen, women love effort; we know how to appreciate even the littlest bit of effort and it would be even more special if it comes with an apology.

Give it when she’s likely to forgive you. It is not such a good idea to apologize when she’s at the height of her anger. She would just think you’re saying ‘sorry’ for the mere sake of saying sorry and in a bad attempt to make her feel better. Do it when she’s calmed down and not hysterical. Otherwise, your perfect apology will just go to waste. On the other hand, don’t wait too long planning and carrying out your apology; or else you’ll be sending the wrong message that you had to think about whether to apologize or not, plus you’re likely to lose momentum. Remember: timing, timing, timing!

Make it public or do something that she would never forget and smile about when she’s reminded of it. Posting “I am sorry” on her Facebook wall does not, unfortunately, count. So think harder. It could be a big sorry sign on her street, or hiring a bunch of kids to hand her post-it’s, or anything that resembles a Hollywood romantic comedy scene. Getting other people involved would make it seem so grand; subjecting yourself to humiliation (i.e. spelling ‘Sorry’ with your butt) would make her feel like you’re willing forget your pride just to make her smile and forgive you. (Dangerous, life threatening, or blackmailing schemes don’t count and are in fact disgusting), Remember the art of getting a girl to fall in love with you!

And, possibly, the best way to apologize – movie effects aside – is to be sincere and show her that.

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Are You The Type Of Man That Most Women Hate?

21 Oct

Good morning gents!  This post is dedicated to helping males understand why women seem to be avoiding them.

All of us have pet peeves and many of us have an idea what we behaviours or personality types we dislike in the opposite sex.  I’ve always found it hard to deal with men who are control freaks; I had one for a boyfriend for the briefest of times about three years back.  Carl was attractive and intelligent so it was not hard to get attracted to him.  It soon became apparent however that he was a control freak.  He criticized everything about me from my appearance, choice of perfumes and even my choice of friends.  Good thing I wised up after just a couple of days and called it quits.

Women of different ages, societies and intellectual interests have different opinions about different types of men.

Some like their men sweet, others like the stone-cold facade with a gooey heart. Others like their men with rock-hard, solid bodies, while others like them with flesh and fluff.

If there are types of men that they like, there are certain types of men that women really hate.

Types of men that women really dislike

But these are the men that women will almost always hate, and would never EVER date (over their dead, gorgeous bodies!). This is usually the Mistakes Men Make, find out if you’re one of them and why they actually hate your kind:

The macho man: We’re talking about machismo of the extreme type; the kind who think they can do anything and everything and they are God’s gift to women. My hormones cry foul at the mere thought of this type of man – this man who has defined excessive vanity in the male body. He thinks he does not need any help and goes about challenging every other male around him. Think, Bradley Cooper’s role in The Wedding Crashers movie – so full of himself, too confident, and excessively overbearing! Women hate the guts of this type of man simply because women are not very fond of arrogance.

The anti-feminist: These are the types of men whose brains have been sleeping in a cave and have not seen the developments of the female movement. Women can do just as well as men, but these guys hate the challenge that equally great women pose to their ego. Dating this kind of man will involve a lot of bragging about men’s accomplishment along with assertions that women should just stay at home and be homemakers. We girls just would love to shove a teeny tiny teacup up the mouth of these types of men to shut them up;  see this how to strike up a conversation with a girl you met.

The domineering male: This man is a little bit of macho, a little bit of anti-feminist and 500% disrespectful, foul-mouthed, and bossy man. He wants to take charge, he takes orders for her, he tells her what to do, and he’d likely yell at his woman when he gets pissed. He’s the kind of dominator that even the most submissive woman would be wise to stay away from.

The foul-mouthed, trash-trash talking kind of guy: These are the kinds of guys whose entire sentences would get bleeped out if they go on TV. They think they are so cool by talking in a language that only they can understand; they use the kind of dirty talk that is not sexy at all; they speak with an expletive at every other word. Women do not like going out with them simply because they don’t think they can have a good and sensible conversation with someone who cannot talk respectfully.

The over-eager dude: Over eagerness is a sign of neediness; it makes the chase unexciting, predictable, and outright boring for the women. You have to pull yourself back a little bit to make her miss and want you; don’t give too much of yourself too soon – don’t give her the message that you’ll always be there and that she can walk around and still expect to find you where she left you. Teach her how to value you.

That is why many girls torture themselves with diets and suffer themselves to exhaustion trying to approximate their appearance to the ideal. But if men really needed such sacrifices, then humanity would already be on the verge of extinction because there are not enough models to go around for all guys. So, what then? -from ShyMagazine.com

If you’re any of these men, learn a thing or two about how to impress women and drop these personas! ASAP!

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