Mistakes Men Make

18 Apr

Hello there reader! First post– I am really excited. It’s hard to choose what to put in here as a first post, but finally managed to write about dating. So.. here goes!

Let’s face it—dating is a cruel and confusing game. I myself have been a victim of horrible first dates– never have I felt awkwardness in my entire life. I don’t know if men will chance upon my blog, but I hope they will– because this post is about the common mistakes men make in dating.

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Some men find it hard to go past that first date, because everything went horribly wrong in all directions. Physical attraction, of course, is always a good thing—but you have to understand that there’s more to it than meets the eye.

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Before you get to this, STOP SCREWING IT UP!

If you want to at least score yourself a fourth or fifth date, you have to avoid making these mistakes that are bound to put an end to that first date. The thing is– women get easily turned off, according to this Yahoo! article—so make it a point to keep everything under control.

Mistake #1: Being too clingy. You’re a man. The word “clingy” shouldn’t even be in your vocabulary to begin with. When women see that slightest hint of cling in you, prepare for a major mood swing moment, or eventually her leaving you right there and then. Stop being too possessive—it’s not attractive. Show her that you have your own life to deal with. Keep on doing those things you love, and don’t show her that she is the centre of your universe. I get it, you’re just trying to be sweet and all—but don’t tell me I didn’t warn you if there comes a time when she’ll immediately leave you after you’ve called her 25 times in a row because she wouldn’t pick up the phone on your movie night Wednesdays.

Mistake #2: Arrogance. There’s no need to remind her on every date that you were a high school god, or a class valedictorian in college. You don’t have to explicitly tell her that you make a seven-figure amount yearly, or tell her details about that latest new car you bought for the second time this month. NO. Women love confidence, but hate arrogance to bits. I know you want to show her that you know how to flirt with a girl, but please, do keep it on a lowdown. So stop bragging. Modesty is sexy, trust me on this one.

Mistake #3: Not Following Through. Bottom line is, do not let words right out of your mouth if you have no intentions of acting up on them. If you say that you’ll come pick her up after her yoga class, do so. If you tell her that you’ll fix her leaking faucet early in the morning tomorrow before work, set up three alarm clocks on your bedside so you can wake up and fix her leaking faucet the next day. Go the distance, women will appreciate it if you consistently do things as you say—they’d love you more for it.

Dating is a fun game, yet you should always prepare yourself for the ride. It’s not always promising, but if you steer clear from these mistakes, you’re on to a good start. Also, improve yourself by learning the latest dating techniques if you must – a good site that we recommend is SonicSeduction.net – go take a look. Good luck!

Lindy :)

5 Things You Should Never Do When Your Ex Wants You Back

12 Dec

1202718_97497287What else can be more difficult, challenging and frustrating than moving on from a serious relationship? It has to be this: when you’ve already made more than enough efforts to convince yourself that you have actually and painstakingly convinced yourself that you’ve fully moved on from her and then she shows up telling you that she wants you back.

Now how is that for a bombshell, huh? Just when you thought everything about you is fine and well, and things have never gotten any more perfect, your dearest darling of an ex comes along with a bagful of bad past heartbreaks and telling you that she wants to open that again with you.

Which, of course, torments you to no end.  Things You Should Never Say About Your Ex.

You begin to think about one thing to another, weighing things, imagining stuff, creating doom scenarios in your head and reliving each and every part of your last painful breakup – yes, that exact same breakup that you had worked so hard for to move on from. And here she comes ruining all that you’ve worked hard for. All. Of. It.

Things you should never do

While I can’t exactly tell you what to do except of these effective ways on how to maintain long distance relationships should you find yourself in this kind of misery, I can tell you what you should NOT do in this situation so as not to aggravate it any further. Here are the 5 things you should never do when your ex wants you back:

  1. Say ‘yes’ right away. You have just gone through a horrible breakup, and partly that’s courtesy of her. And to jump right into that thing is going to make you feel worse than better. Think it through, take as much time as you want not because you deserve it but because that’s what’s best for the two of you.
  2. Get drunk. Yes, it is tempting, and yes it seems like the best and only thing to do in the midst of this confusion. But that is not the wisest. You would be better off talking about it with someone mature and objective about the situation – brother, best friend, girl best friend, anyone who can tell you the real situation against your probably currently hazy mind.
  3. Have an instant rebound girlfriend. Apart from getting drunk, this is something that’s really crazy tempting in these types of situations. Of course, you’re angry and you want to take revenge. What better way to extract that revenge than to get another instant girlfriend, right? But slow it down, gentleman; that would be unfair for everyone involved. And besides, it won’t solve anything. It might even add to the problem.
  4. Have sex with her. As if your current situation isn’t complicated enough, having sex with her during this crucial juncture between relationship and un-relationship can only add more confusion. Orgasms would only make your hazy brain even hazier.
  5. Say yes only to get back at her. Revenge does not solve anything and that sense of gratification can only last you so long.

Your first breakup should have learned you enough; take whatever lesson you got from that prior heartbreak and use it to weigh in on this situation. See this interesting article and good luck!

Where to Take Your Cougar Date

5 Dec

Good Day Everyone!

Thank you for visiting thesoilsisters once again! Hope you will like this article like my previous one. Enjoy :)

So you’re dating a cougar, or you’ve somehow managed to attract one and you’re going to take her out on a date. Do you know where to take her? Do you have an inkling of an idea about taking a cougar on a date?

See, gentlemen, cougars have very refined tastes. They’ve been there, they’ve done that, and they’ve lived long enough to know games from real stuff and there are a few things that they have yet to try. Yes, they are that difficult to impress.

1425777_41950996So you know she likes you using these signs that a woman likes you – an SIBG.com guide and while you’ve impressed her enough to get her to go out with you, that is only the first step of many. There are many other steps you have to make to be her steady date, each one tougher than the one that came before it. And what actually makes it even tougher is the fact that there are tons of other men who are falling in line to get her too.

Where to Take Her

So how do you get the ‘Take a Cougar on a Date’ badge? Here are some tips:

  1. Take her cruising. Rent a yacht, or someone’s fancy boat, decorate it with lights, flowers, and a fancy table, and have a special dinner served in there. If space allows, have some musicians playing while you’re at it too. If not, your iPod will have to suffice for now.
  2. Take her on a trip. So what if you have to fly 30 minutes on a helicopter just to have dinner? Or drive out to the next city just to give her some authentic cuisine that she has been craving for days? Or maybe, you can rent an expensive SUV and take her on a roadtrip for the weekend? She will never forget it.
  3. Prepare a special rooftop dinner for her. Taking her to the neighborhood French restaurant may not be the best date option for you; she’s probably a regular there. But taking her to a special dinner at the rooftop of that restaurant, with candles and lights, and a breathtaking view of the city under the night sky, that would be really special, not to mention unique.
  4. Prepare a fancy little evening picnic just for the two of you. Find a perfect picnic spot, lay down your most expensive silk sheet on the grass, get the effects – bubbly champagne, awesome dinner, an exquisite bouquet, a rustic little lamp, add some throw pillows and a shawl for her comfort, and prepare to sweep her off her feet with your thoughtfulness.
  5. Take her on a masquerade ball. Cougars, while they maintain their youthful appeal and prefer going out with younger men, are actually looking for men with class and distinctive tastes. That is why taking her to a masquerade ball would make her swoon over you. It’s high class, it’s special, it’s classy, and it takes her back to the old glory days of dating where men act like gentlemen and women are treated like ladies; plus, it’s the perfect excuse to actually dress up real fancy.

Well, you knew it wasn’t going to be easy, nor cheap, when you choose to go for the cougars. Good luck!

5 Signs Online Dating is For You

28 Nov

Are you tired of the usual woes of traditional dating? Has the regular meet-date-date-vanish routine been proving to be a little too much for your taste? Are you looking for a way to escape the boring old ways of dating but still be open to opportunities for romance?

laptoMaybe you should try online dating! See some effective tips here!

Or maybe you should not.

Online dating is only as good and as fun as you can get. There are tons of opportunities for romance in the online hemisphere but it is, unfortunately, not for everyone. It takes some equal portions of dedication to sitting for hours on your  computer, patiently waiting for friend invites, and equal portions of detachment and better judgment even when the other person on the other end of the line seems too good to be true because in reality, that might exactly be what she is: too good to be true.

Online Dating Tips

So, is online dating really for you? It could be worth a try or it could not be worth your time at all. Find out if you are suited for the virtual dating realm, here are the guides:
1.    If you are comfortable about talking to a woman you don’t at all see and still spark up and enjoy a conversation. Some people just don’t know how to communicate when there’s not a real live human person in front of them; some people need to actually feel their conversation partner’s physical presence to make it real. If you can work out your imagination, feels comfortable at being alone, and enjoys these types of conversations, by all means give online dating a try.
2.    If you are fine with long distance relationships. Online dating brings the romance opportunities on the global scale. If you are open to dating a woman who’s from Timbuktu even when you’re in downtown LA, and up for innovative online “dates”, then you certainly have a bright future in the world of online romance.
3.    If you don’t mind sitting on the computer for several hours talking with different women at the same time, most of whom you know only by name, age, location, and a photo (sometimes, for the lack of it, they use avatars). It can be frustrating, if you’re really not into that kind of thing. These mini-facts that you know about the people you click on to get to know makes them less than real.
4.    If you know how to stop yourself from falling too soon. This is hard in the real world, you bet it is so much more difficult online. It is very easy to make up stuff online; you can be an actual rocket scientist on your online profile and she can be the supposed Victoria’s Secret angel who had to be cut off from the group over a sprained ankle. So can people easily make you fall and make you believe in undying love when in reality, they are just endless words.
5.    If you know how to protect yourself from online crooks. This is basic but this is very essential. You can pass the first four standards but if you fail on this area, you had better get your hands off the online dating world mister.
So, is online dating for you?

Surely, these are the ways to success on Online Dating! After this, know how to make a girl think about you (tips on SIBG.com).

Gentleman’s Guide to Phone Etiquette

22 Nov

Greeting everyone!

Thank you for the great feedback on my last post. I know  you need some help again, so please read this new post. Thanks :)

Just because we’re blessed with advanced technologies in communication does not mean we are allowed to be savages!OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

In this day and age, where phones can practically do anything for us, we tend to forget the boundaries that lie between accessible and courteous. And this is especially true about courtship! Men call whenever they please, text whatever they want, and just do whatever the hell they feel like doing anything their phone can accomplish for them to reach the lady who’s caught their fancy.

That is certainly not the ways of the gentleman! A true gentleman knows the how’s and the why’s as well as the when’s of proper phone use, especially when it comes to dealing with women. And that includes every form of phone – from its ancient wired great grandfathers to its very modern smart phones.

Phone etiquette tips

Here are some smart and gentlemanly tips on phone etiquette.1206745_81549611

  • Do ask ahead when it is okay to call. Seriously, that’s what makes text more convenient! Unless you’re trying to catch your girlfriend in a lie, you certainly have to have the courtesy to ask the lady you’re courting when it is a great time to chat on the phone. She may actually have a real life to consider, you know!
  • Don’t leave a woman waiting for your call. So you said you’re going to call and you never did. That’s just lame and one of the biggest reasons why women distrust men. If you’re not going to call, if you don’t have any plan whatsoever of going on another date with her, you don’t have to make an empty promise of calling her.
  • Don’t text someone else in the middle of a conversation – with a lady or not. And unless it’s really, really, really important, don’t forget to excuse yourself. This goes out to doing smart phone stuff (aka social media shenanigans). Guys, check out these online dating tips.
  • Do keep your phone conversations at a decent hour. So you want to talk with her and you’re missing her too badly in the middle of the night. Oh and you just can’t stop the urge from calling her just to hear her sweet voice. Well one thing: stop that urge immediately. It would be selfish and rude to actually disturb her restful sleep just because you miss her. Sounds sweet but when you’ve been woken abruptly in the middle of your sleep, nothing’s sweet about it.
  • Do avoid calling her while she’s at work (or at school if she’s a student – which I hope she isn’t). Respect is knowing when it is appropriate to call and when it isn’t – when you can disturb her personal affairs. That is why we all go back to Rule No. 1 – always ask if it’s a good time to call.
  • Don’t flood her phone with texts when she does not text back (or at least does not text back too soon). Oh the impatience of an enamored man! She wouldn’t love getting a thousand texts from you just because she was in the bathroom doing her thing.

Remember these things and make your mothers proud, boys!

How to Change the Way a Woman Sees You

18 Nov

123-secret-crushes-080512-61607273So there’s this girl you like, and you like her very, very much. Unfortunately, she thinks you’re an asshole. Or maybe she thinks you’re a nerd, someone who’s better off a friend than a lover. Or maybe, just maybe by a slight stroke of un-luck, she thinks you’re gay. Whatever her perception is of you, you know that it’s not helping you make your moves on her.

Just what do you do? How do you change the way a woman sees you? What do you do to make your lasting impression a better version of her first impression of you? Learn how to talk to girls now.

Change How a Woman Sees You

Fortunately, yes, you still can change the way she sees you. Here are some effective tips:

  • Change your own actions. But of course you start this way! If she sees you as an annoying, self-important player – even without her having personal knowledge about your dating life, it may be because of the way you present yourself. Maybe you come off as very annoying because you talk too loudly, or talk too much about yourself. Maybe she has overheard about you talking with your buddies about your ex, or she’s seen the way you lustfully looked at her. If you want to change your impression of her, you had better change your ways.
  • Ask a good buddy to put in some good word for you. Ask a common friend of yours to put in a good word or two – randomly – about you; nothing too much, too sugarcoated, and too exaggerated, just something to spark up some curiosity and interest about you. Hearing something about you from someone else – the good stuff – would be better off and more convincing if it comes from someone else’s mouth. PS: remember to make it as ‘random’ as possible!FB250222A73B933662D1AB1E97A61
  • Find a way to share a conversation with her. At this point, you have to make it a point that this is just a conversation, not a date, nor anything close to it. And make sure that she thinks exactly the same. The best way to pull this off is to talk to her in a group – group date, lunch outs, anything that will allow you to speak up so she can listen, in a non-exclusive, non-intimate setup. Use this conversation as a chance to show her the side that she fails to see. Show her, through your stories, what you’re interested in, what ticks you off, and what makes you likable. But make sure to keep the subtlety in your stories, otherwise she’ll think you’re a self-absorbed jerk.
  • Invite her on a date. When she finally softens up to you, and she’s seemingly convinced that you might actually be better than she initially thought you’d be, then you can invite her on an actual date. Show her your Mr Suave side, the part of you that would make her want you. Make her forget about her initial judgment of you and wow her all night with your niceness, gentlemanliness, and your outstanding behavior – squeeze in the humor, that’s very important too!

Remember, it’s never too late to be really nice and really likable!

5 Simple Hobbies that Easily Impress Women

11 Nov


Make her run for you.

Women, to the surprise of men, are just not as difficult nor as complicated as you think they are. Sure there are things that make pleasing women a bit of a challenge, but in general, women are very simple creatures. A lot of honesty, tons of loyalty, and an unquestionable level of connection is mostly what women need from lovers, potential and current both. But wait, where to get dating advice (for men)? Read it now.

Perhaps, the thing that is most challenging about women is on the pre-relationship side – when you are just trying to impress her and win her with whatever you have in your armory.

But your armory need not be filled only with inexplicably unbelievably impossibly human strengths, skills, and qualifications to be granted full appreciation by her. Surprisingly, there are very simple ways to actually impress her.

Hobbies can make women impress

Don’t be a Type of Men That (Most) Women Hate. Here are some of the simplest hobbies that can actually impress women quite easily  (PS: they are lasting too!)

  1. Avid reading. What’s so difficult about spending endless hours being lost in the pages of a good book? Nothing! But it wins tons and tons of points on women. And why not? It means that you are the kind of man who invests in your mind, who is not only interested in making himself look good but to actually be one with substance.
  2. Collecting. It doesn’t matter what you collect; collection is as simple as it is challenging, but altogether impressive. Collecting, especially the rarer stuff, requires a lot of patience and awful lot of safekeeping that spans years and years. Says a lot about a man’s commitment, doesn’t it? Definitely a sure winner among women.
  3. Fixing stuff and handyman skills. Today’s woman, no matter how independent she has become, still has it in her DNA to look for support of a man whether as a father figure or a lover. And what better way to be ‘supportive’ of a woman than to be someone who knows how to fix things when they break? It’s a thing in women that’s been as long as the human relationship between men and women has started. So your handyman skills and inclination towards working with gears and screws and toolboxes will always come out impressive.
  4. Gardening. Think this is effeminate? Think again. Gardening sends out the message that a man is caring and nurturing – something that any woman from the caveman days of the human species has always been a plus. SO get your green thumb going, get your fingers in the dirt, and win her heart with your flowering blooms. Trust me, a bouquet of flowers that comes from your own garden is a much better, much sweeter gift than a store-bought one.
  5. Cooking. Like gardening, cooking is a hobby of nourishment. I’m not talking about cooking in the professional sense. I am talking about cooking as a hobby, something that he does to entertain himself and his family/friends. Trust me, flip a pancake perfectly and you’ll have her gushing at you and your cooking all day. Remember: the way to anyone’s heart is still and perhaps will always be through the stomach.

Read more Skills That Impress Women from magforguys.com. Good luck!

Fool Proof Ways to Apologize to Her

29 Oct

Women aren’t that complicated as you may think. You do something wrong, she gets upset, and then you apologize. That’s basically it.

I don’t see why men make a fuss over women making a fuss about what they did wrong. And when men do apologize, it never works because it is never convincing enough.

Don’t raise an eyebrow at me gents, all the ladies are nodding their heads on this one. Men think that simply blurting out ‘I’m sorry’ is apology enough. Well, trust me, that will do if your offense was just bump her at the door on your way out or accidentally elbow her at the Starbucks line.

Ways of apologizing that women want

Sweetheart, that is not enough. Let me teach you the right way on how women want you to apologize:

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Give her a flower and letter with match of effort :)

  • Remember the three components essential to an apology: “I’m sorry”, “I won’t do it again”, and “What can I do to make up for it?” The first part says that you’re actually remorseful for what you’ve done, the second part is a promise that you are remorseful enough not to do it again, and the last one is to correct the damage or at least lessen it.
  • Put a little effort in it. Saying sorry is never just saying sorry. Be a little creative about it. Do something nice, fun, or romantic enough to equal, or better yet exceed, the gravity of the offense you’ve committed. Flowers are always welcome, a personalized dinner date, or a surprise whatever would also make the cut. I’ve said this again and again and I won’t stop saying it: gentlemen, women love effort; we know how to appreciate even the littlest bit of effort and it would be even more special if it comes with an apology.
  • Give it when she’s likely to forgive you. It is not much a good idea to apologize when she’s at the height of her anger. She would just think you’re saying ‘sorry’ for the mere sake of saying sorry and in a bad attempt to make her feel better. Do it when she’s calmed down and not hysterical. Otherwise, your perfect apology would go to total waste. On the other hand, don’t wait too long planning and carrying out your apology. You’d be sending the wrong message: that you had to think about whether you should do it or not; plus you’ll lose the momentum that makes it special. Remember: timing, timing, timing!
  • Make it public or do something that she would never forget and smile about when she’s reminded of it. Posting “I am sorry” on her Facebook wall does not, unfortunately, count. So think harder. It could be a big sorry sign on her street, or hiring a bunch of kids to hand her post-it’s, or anything that resembles a Hollywood rom-com scene. Getting other people involved would make it seem so grand; putting yourself out in humiliation (i.e. spelling ‘Sorry’ with your butt) would make her feel like you’re willing to put yourself out there just so to make her smile and forgive you. (Dangerous, life threatening, or blackmailing schemes don’t count and are in fact disgusting), Remember the art of getting a girl to fall in love with you!

And, possibly, the best way to apologize – movie effects aside – is to be sincere and show her that.

5 Types of Men That (Most) Women Hate

21 Oct

Women of different ages, societies and intellectual interests have different opinions on different types of men.

Some like their men sweet, others like the stone-cold façade with a gooey heart. Others like their men with rock-hard, solid bodies, while others like them with flesh and fluff.

Types of Men that Women will never like

A big no no!

A big no no!

But these are the men that women will almost always hate, and would never EVER date (over their dead, gorgeous bodies!). This is usually the Mistakes Men Make, find out if you’re one of them and why they actually hate your kind:

  1. The macho man. Machismo is thinking that they can do anything and everything and they are God’s gift to women. My hormones are crying foul just at the thought of this type of man – this man who has defined excessive vanity in the male body. He thinks he does not need any help; he goes about challenging every other male being around him. Think, Bradley Cooper’s role in The Wedding Crashers movie – so full of himself, too confident, too overbearing! Women hate the guts of this man simply because women are not very fond of arrogance.
  2. The anti-feminist. These are the types of men whose brains have been sleeping in a cave and have not seen the developments of the female movement. Women can do just as well as men, but these guys hate the challenge that an equally great woman poses to his ego. Dating this kind of man is all about bragging how much men can accomplish, and probably enter snippets of talk about how women should just stay at home and be homemakers because they think that’s the only thing women can do. We girls just would love to shove a teenytiny teacup up the mouth of these types of men to shut them up, so see this how to strike up a conversation with a girl you met.
  3. The dominator. This man is the a little bit of macho, a little bit of anti-feminist and 500% disrespectful foul-mouthed bossy man. He wants to take charge, he takes orders for her, he tells her what to do, and he’d likely yell at his woman when he gets pissed. He’s the kind of dominator that even the most submissive woman would elude – for one, that’s hardly a Christian Grey dominator material!
  4. The foul-mouthed, slang-and-trash talking kind of guy. These are the kinds of guys whose entire sentences would get bleeped if they go on TV. They think they are so cool by talking in a language that only they can understand; they do the kind of dirty talk that is hardly sexy at all; they speak with an expletive at every other word. Women do not like going out with them simply because they don’t think they can derive a good and sensible conversation with someone who cannot talk respectfully.
  5. The over-eager. Over eagerness is a sign of neediness; it makes the chase unexciting, predictable, and outright boring for the women. You have to pull yourself back a little bit to make her miss and want you; don’t give too much of yourself too soon – don’t give her the message that you’ll always be there and that she can walk around and still expect to find you where she left you. Teach her how to value you.

That is why many girls torture themselves with diets and suffer to exhaustion trying to approximate their appearance to the ideal. But if men really needed such sacrifices, then humanity would already be on the verge of extinction because there are not enough models to go around for all guys. So, what then? -from ShyMagazine.com

If you’re any of these men, learn a thing or two about how to impress women and drop these personas! Stat!

Things That Will Make Her Run From Commitment

17 Oct

So you have been going out for some time now and you can’t help but want to stick with her. You feel so much like this is going to be for the long term and that she feels the same way as you, you also tested some easy ways to test compatibilityescape

But for some weird, totally unprecedented reason, she seemed to have changed her mind about you and about commitment. Could you possibly have done something to make her change her mind?
Commitment is the name of most every relationship. People get into relationships for the security and comfort of it; of knowing that they will always have someone to “belong” to, someone who “belongs” to them, whose love they do not have to share with anyone else, and to actually have someone who will stay for the long term.

Reasons why people would turn away from you

Maybe you forgot how to mess with a woman’s mind but as with anything else, there are things that make people turn away from committing to you (or to anyone else). Here are some; check if you’re guilty of any of these:

  • You did not strike her as the type who goes for commitment. Some girls run away before they get hurt. And if you seem like the type who would not take her and a relationship with her seriously, and that you are a potentially dangerous man who could wound her heart, she’d be walking away from before you get the chance to get too close for comfort. Yes, even if you’re totally into her and you’re ready to give up your single guy rights for her. How do you correct this? Change the way she sees you; show her that you can be loyal and that you can stick to one woman.
  • Pressure. Some people work well under pressure, others explode and get blown away – and not in a very good way. Don’t put anyone, especially a lady, under pressure. It might scare her away. It makes relationships and commitments seem like an ordeal, something that is so big and scary that she needs to be pin ned to the wall for an answer. The answer will be half-hearted so think twice before pressuring the living hell out of her. Wait until she’s a little bit ready or run off if you couldn’t wait.
  • You have been very domineering. As mentioned earlier, some women run off before things get too difficult run away from. If you’ve been the guy who chokes her, smothers her, and makes her feel inferior, she would definitely say no to the idea of being tied down to you in a committed relationship. If being with you means she’d lose a huge part of herself to you unwittingly, like any woman – she’d pack her bags and leave before she gets caught in your trap of a relationship.

You can also view this article from GQ.

Upgrading to commitment in a relationship after some time of going out and getting to know each other usually falls on the hands of the guy. It is up to you to show her that sticking with you is a good idea and a wonderful experience – for the long term. Well, if everything didn’t work out well, read this tips.

Manly Beauty Regimens

9 Oct

Gone are the days when only the girls define beauty. And gone are the days when only the ladies are allowed to try out practices and rituals that improve the outward look. These days, it is perfectly acceptable to see gentlemen who dab a little moisturizer and spend a little more time on getting their hair done, this is a sure way on to how to get an Asian girl. And you don’t even have to be a Hollywood actor or a model or some popular politician to have the excuse or the reason to do it.

For the uninitiated, these manly regimens go beyond the usual deodorant-perfume. These are things that have you going out of your usual, routinely way to not only look good but to also make yourself feel good. See this guide for natural healthy beauty products.

Beauty Tips for Men


Be a handsome guy.

If you’re not at it yet, or if you are slowly starting to get your way into the concept of starting a “beauty” ritual, here are some tips:

  • Cleanse-tone-moisturize your face. These are the basics. It might sound a little too intimidating for the newbie, but trust me, it’s no rocket science. Why do you need to do this? Simple: to keep your face clean and healthy. See, cleansing your face is not just for us women who put on too many layers of makeup. It’s for everyone who gets exposed to elements every single day – pollution, dust, what-have-you. Toning is to keep the skin tone even; nothing is more distracting and disconcerting than uneven facial skin tone. And of course you need to moisturize. Not only is dry skin unattractive and unhealthy-looking; it is also more prone to breakouts.
  • Hand lotion. No girl can resist locking fingers with a guy with soft hands. See, dry and callous hands are no longer the only measure of manliness, especially when the non-athletic men of this generation can never achieve that from sitting all day in the computer. To make it a little bit more generally functional and beneficial, hand lotions now come with antibacterial features.
  • Foot lotion. Just the same as soft hands are irresistible, hard, cracked and dry heels are as horrible. So dab on some foot lotion to improve that. A foot spa sesh every two weeks could also do wonders for your feet so go ahead and make that bi-weekly trip.
  • Lip balm. This may not be the manliest thing on the planet but it does have its benefits. One of them, apparently, is a pair of deliciously kissable lips – the kind that girls dig for. Thankfully, they come in mini-canister types and not just the stick kind. And there are varieties and brands that are unscented and unflavored so you don’t have to worry about tasting like her favorite berries when you smooch up.
  • Occasional body scrub. Before you give me that weird look, body scrub is actually good for you. Better than you can imagine. Body scrubs, usually offered at spas and wellness centers, help your skin exfoliate bringing out a cleaner, newer, healthier skin. On top of that, body scrubs are very relaxing; it feels just like getting some good ol’ massage.

Come on, just because we girls do it more does not mean you can’t do it! Caring for your body and your look can be a manly thing too. So go ahead and try any of these tips and try to avoid the usual mistakes men make!

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